Department 07

A department of the publication
Looking after yourself
The carer is part of the arrangement, not an afterthought to it.
Guides in this department
Guides for describing what you see, not deciding what it means.
From here each guide opens as a working document. Every one names its sources and says what it deliberately doesn’t claim.
- Worn down by caring for a parentWhen caring leaves you tired and stretched thin, it can help to have words for it. This page gathers how health and carers' organisations describe it, and points you to your own doctor.
- A break from caring, and who can step inA break can be an hour or a fortnight, and the people who cover can be family, volunteers or paid help. Here is how to picture one, line up cover and hand over well.
- Finding people who understand what you're going throughWhen friends don't quite get what caring involves, it can help to talk with people who do. Here are the kinds of support that exist, what people say they get from them, and how to find what is near you.
- Guilt, resentment and mixed feelings about caring for a parentCaring for a parent can stir up feelings you would rather not admit to, sometimes several at once. Here is what carers' and health organisations say about them, and some ways to give them room.
- Keeping your own life, work and relationships while you careCaring for a parent can spread into your job, your household and your own plans. These are ways carers talk to employers, bring the household in, and keep something for themselves.
Articles in this department
Shorter pieces that belong to this question.
1 article in this department. Each carries a subject, which says what is changing; the department says which question it belongs to.
- The one who lives nearestThis piece is for the person care has come to rest on, who in the US, the National Institute on Aging says, tends to be a spouse or the older person's child or sibling who lives closest.Family and consentLooking after yourself
From WeHomeCare
This section describes WeHomeCare's own product.
We think your parent should decide what their family sees, and you can ask any care provider how it makes that possible.
From WeHomeCare: all pagesHow we source
Carefulness, made visible.
Named, not counted
Each guide names its sources and tags each one Primary or Secondary. It never counts sources at you.
Under-claiming on purpose
Where no authority sets a threshold, we say so rather than inventing one.
Naming the limit
Every guide names where its authority ends, and who to ask instead.





